Hi, it's Patrik Hutzel from INTENSIVECAREHOTLINE.COM, where
we instantly improve the lives for Families of critically ill Patients in Intensive Care, so that you can make informed decisions, have peace of mind, real power, real control and so that you can influence decision making fast, even if you're not a doctor or a nurse in Intensive Care!
In the last blog I talked about
Do Intensive Care Units have a "one size fits all" approach to dying in ICU?
You can check out the last blog by clicking
on the link here.
In this week’s blog I want to talk about
Having a loved one critically ill in Intensive Care!
Why the doctors in Intensive Care are looking for a solution for their ICU and why you are looking for a solution for your critically ill loved one and how to get what you want in this power struggle!
Before I get into today's topic I want to share a quote with you that I wrote on today’s topic!
Intensive Care is a highly dynamic and extremely volatile environment!
This is true for Families of critically ill Patients in Intensive Care as well as for Intensive Care
teams. The major difference is that Intensive Care teams in 99% of all cases have the upper hand because they are used in managing the dynamics in Intensive Care to get what they want!
On the other hand, 99% of the families of critically ill Patients in Intensive Care don’t know how to make informed decisions, they don’t know how to get peace of mind, nor do they know how to stay in control, have power and influence
during this “once in a lifetime”
challenge that you know you can’t afford to be getting wrong!
Having a loved one in Intensive Care is often a power struggle as the interests of Intensive Care teams are to look for solutions for their Intensive Care Units rather than looking for solutions of what’s best for a critically ill Patient and their family!
You and your family on
the other hand are looking for solutions for your critically ill loved one and because of that there’s often a mismatch!
Being aware and admitting that this conflict in interests exists between Intensive Care teams and families of critically ill Patients in Intensive Care is the first step in order to move towards getting what you want, need and deserve!
Doing your own research, not taking “no” for an answer, being determined and looking out for solutions that seem to be impossible for 99% of the families of critically ill Patients in Intensive Care are usually a winning formula to maximize your chances in getting what you want, need and deserve!
So let’s get into today’s
topic.
If your loved one is critically ill in Intensive Care you and your family are wanting the best possible help your critically ill loved one on their road to survival and recovery.
On the other hand, some of the biggest complaints we get from families of critically ill Patients in Intensive Care are things like
- The Intensive Care team wanting to “pull the plug”
- The Intensive Care team asks us to agree to do the unthinkable
- The Intensive Care team asks us to agree to kill my mother, father, brother, sister, brother, son, daughter, grandmother, grandfather, uncle, aunt…etc
You can already see that there is a mismatch in expectations and what’s
being delivered and therefore explosive potential for real conflict during those highly emotionally charged situations.
Now, if you are like 99% of the families of critically ill Patients in Intensive Care you will just nod off everything the Intensive Care team is telling you and you will continue to feel intimidated by the “perceived power” and the “perceived authority” of the Intensive Care team.
If that’s you, I’ve got good news for you, because you can let go of being intimidated by the “perceived power” and “perceived authority” of the Intensive Care team, because after all their status is only perceived and not real.
Chances are that if you are reading this now that you want to find solutions for this “once in a lifetime” challenge
that you know you can’t afford to be getting wrong.
And because you are reading this right now, the chances that your critically ill loved one is either
and during those incredibly challenging and often heartbreaking situations, there is often a very high
chance that the Intensive Care team’s goals and your goals are not aligned.
What do I mean by that?
You and your family are looking at the aforementioned situations in terms of your critically ill loved one needing the best therapy, care and treatment available in order to maximize chances for the survival and the recovery of your critically ill loved one.
Intensive Care teams are looking at the aforementioned situations in a light that sets off their alarm bells as it relates to
- Not wanting to spend too much money, staff and equipment resources to maximize their financial benefit
- Not wanting to deal with a family that is “difficult and demanding” and not wanting to invest too many emotions as well as efforts in dealing with you and your family
- Wanting to stay in control of the treatment, therapy and care options
- Wanting to stay in control of the positioning of your critically ill loved one’s diagnosis, prognosis as well
as the care and treatment
- They also want to stay in control of the meaning of your critically ill loved one’s stay in Intensive Car
- Wanting to stay in control of who and for how long a critically ill Patient is occupying a precious, scarce, expensive and “in-demand” Intensive Care
bed
And we are just scratching the surface here. If you want to find out more about what’s really happening “BEHIND THE SCENES” in Intensive Care you can check out the following resources
The bottom line is this.
You and your family are looking for a solution to maximize chances for survival and recovery of your mother, father, brother, sister, son, daughter, grandmother, grandfather, uncle or aunt etc…
The Intensive Care Unit is looking
for a solution for their Intensive Care Unit and for their business model.
They are looking for solutions to maximize their funding and minimize their efforts, it’s as simple as that.
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The fact of the matter is that if your loved one is really unwell in Intensive Care and is really critical and is not getting out of Intensive Care anytime soon, you will need help with all of this to stand a chance in getting what you and your family want, need and deserve.
You may also be wondering why I should be the one telling
you about this?
Well, after nearly 20 years Intensive Care Nursing experience in three different countries, where I literally worked with thousands of critically ill Patients and their families and where I also worked as a Nurse Unit Manager for over 5 years in Intensive Care and with now counselling and consulting families in Intensive Care on a day by day basis all over the world, I know that I have in-depth and intimate knowledge about what’s happening in Intensive Care.
I therefore also have intimate and in-depth knowledge about what families in Intensive Care want, need and deserve for their critically ill loved
one!
And I can help you to get what you want very quickly whilst your loved one is critically ill in Intensive Care.
Why?
Because the Intensive Care team is used to getting what they want, they know how they position your critically ill loved one’s diagnosis, their prognosis as well as their care and their
treatment.
If you don’t know how to position your critically ill loved one’s diagnosis, their prognosis as well as their care and their treatment you and your family are doomed.
I can help you very quickly in positioning your critically ill loved one’s diagnosis, their prognosis as well as their care and their treatment and you will see a quick change in how the Intensive Care team interacts
with you and your family once you start asking the right questions and have the right “insider knowledge”.
