Hi, it’s Patrik Hutzel from INTENSIVECAREHOTLINE.COM , where we instantly improve the lives of Families of
critically ill Patients in Intensive Care, so that you can have PEACE OF MIND, real power, real control and so that you can influence decision making fast, even if you’re not a doctor or a nurse in Intensive Care!
In last week’s BLOG I’ve talked about
“THE 5 REASONS WHY YOU NEED TO QUESTION PERCEIVED AUTHORITY AND “EXPERT STATUS” IN INTENSIVE CARE!”
You can check out last week’s BLOG by clicking on the link here.
In this week’s BLOG I want to talk to you about
”HAS THE INTENSIVE CARE
TEAM GOT THE ULTIMATE POWER WHEN IT COMES TO STOP TREATING YOUR CRITICALLY ILL LOVED ONE IN INTENSIVE CARE?"
Before I get into today’s topic I want to share a quote with you that I wrote on today’s topic and the quote says
“All of life is a negotiation. In every human
interaction, you are either talking other people into doing what you want, or they are talking you into doing what they want. You don’t get what you deserve in life, you only get what you negotiate. The strongest negotiating position is always being able to look for alternatives, relentlessly pursue them and mean it!
If you don’t believe you deserve what
you want for your critically ill loved one and if you don’t speak up for yourself and for your critically ill loved one, state what you want in no uncertain terms, and if you are not willing to dare the “perceived authority” and the “perceived power” of the Intensive Care team, then you are all too often going to feel and be shortchanged, left out, fleeced and disappointed!
Remember, you and your family are in a “ONCE IN A LIFETIME” situation that you can’t afford to get wrong and you and your family need to know what to do when you are having a loved one critically ill in Intensive Care!
Not knowing what to do, not knowing what questions you need to ask, not knowing how to
position yourself and your critically ill loved one correctly and powerfully and worst of all, not knowing what’s happening “BEHIND THE SCENES” in Intensive Care is often a matter of “life or death”!
Today is a really heavily emotionally charged topic that I want to talk to you about!
It’s also a topic with a lot of grey areas, where different opinions, different values, different beliefs, different frames of
mind and most of all different interests clash!
It’s also an area where Intensive Care teams have the perceived “upper hand” so to speak, where Families of critically ill Patients in Intensive Care simply don’t know what to do, they don’t know what questions they need to ask and they don’t know how to position themselves and their critically ill
loved one powerfully, strongly and correctly because they are so overwhelmed by their-often negative- emotions, by their fear, by their frustrations and by feeling extremely vulnerable.
Therefore the questions and the topic that I want to dive into today is
“HAS THE INTENSIVE CARE TEAM GOT THE ULTIMATE POWER
WHEN IT COMES TO STOP TREATING YOUR CRITICALLY ILL LOVED ONE IN INTENSIVE CARE?”
As I have talked about in my quote in the beginning, all of life is negotiation and how you position yourself in a negotiating situation is often a matter of your belief system, it’s a matter of you seeking out help of people who know what to do and it’s a matter of how you view
yourself.
Now, if you are like 99% of families of critically ill Patients in Intensive Care who have no PEACE OF MIND, no power, no control and no influence, and if you think that the Intensive Care team is way more powerful than you and your family are, than I’ve got bad news for you!
Because
if you and your family buy into the “perceived authority” and the “perceived power” of the Intensive Care team, you and your family will consciously or unconsciously give the Intensive Care team the ultimate power when it comes to stop treating your critically ill loved one in Intensive Care!
Henry Ford once
famously said
“Whether you think you can or you can’t, you’re absolutely right!”
And Henry Ford was right, by saying that! The Intensive Care team certainly thinks that they can make “life or death” decisions all the time, 24 hours a day, 365 days in a year, often in a blink of an eye, without consulting with you or with your family, let alone with your critically ill loved one!
But what about you and your family?
Do you believe that you can challenge
the “perceived power” and the “perceived authority” of the Intensive Care team, when it comes to whether your critically ill loved one is going to live or going to die?
Or do you continue aligning yourself with the limiting beliefs of the 99% of families of critically ill Patients in Intensive Care who have no PEACE OF MIND, no
control, no power and no influence?
If your critically ill loved one is in Intensive Care and is either
- very unstable and in a very critical condition
chances are that the Intensive Care team will have positioned your critically ill loved one’s diagnosis, their prognosis, as well as their treatment and care in a negative
light.
The fact of the matter is that especially when it comes to tricky and difficult situations around “real” or “perceived” end of life situations, you and your family need to ask yourself whether the Intensive Care team is talking about a “real” or a “perceived” end of life situation.
What’s the
difference between a “real” and a “perceived” end of life situation?
I’m glad you’ve asked.
A “real” end of life situation is where there is no cure, no treatment and no surgery that can save the life of your critically ill loved one. Things can happen very quickly in “real” end of life
situations and death of your critically ill loved one is imminent!
A “perceived” end of life situation is a situation where the Intensive Care team “perceives” that a “limitation of treatment” or the “withdrawal of treatment” might be “in the best interest” of your critically ill loved one!
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It’s just their perception and the perception of the Intensive Care team is often not even real!
Intensive Care teams always think that they “know what’s best”! After all they are the “smart” ones right?
The fact of the matter is that Intensive Care teams often use their “perceived power”, their “perceived authority” and their “expert status” to get what
they want!
They also often use “formal family meetings” to position and cement their “expert status”, their “perceived power” and their “perceived authority”!
They also often use “formal family meetings” to meet with families of critically ill Patients to break bad news!
Whenever the Intensive Care team wants to “discuss” “real” or “perceived” end of life situations and whenever the Intensive Care team wants to bring up “withdrawal of treatment”, “limitation of treatment”, “NFR” (not for resuscitation) or “DNR” (do not resuscitate) orders for your critically ill loved one, they do that by “having a chat” in a “formal family meeting”!
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The fact of the matter is that whenever the Intensive Care team is asking for the formality of a family meeting, that they have already made up their mind on how they present and position your critically ill loved one’s diagnosis, prognosis and their care and
treatment!
The Intensive Care team has their “game plan” mapped out, so to speak, to get what they want and they are not meeting with you to consult you, they are meeting with you to tell you what’s going to happen!
The reality and the fact of the matter is that the Intensive Care team has positioned and is
presenting your critically ill loved one’s situation according to what’s happening “BEHIND THE SCENES” in Intensive Care and according to what has been discussed “BEHIND THE SCENES”!
The wheels that are in motion “BEHIND THE SCENES” in Intensive Care are way too powerful for you to understand if you don’t quickly learn and discover…
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If you don’t have a strategy, if you don’t know what questions to ask, if you don’t know how to position yourself strongly and correctly and most of all if you don’t know how to get PEACE OF MIND, control, power and influence, then yes, the Intensive Care team has the ultimate power when it
comes to stop treating your critically ill loved one in Intensive Care!
If you do have a strategy, if you know what questions to ask, if you know how to position yourself strongly and correctly and if you belief that you can have PEACE OF MIND, control, power and influence, than quite frankly the Intensive Care team doesn’t have the ultimate
power when it comes to stop treating your critically ill loved one in Intensive Care!
The good news is that after more than 15 years Intensive Care nursing in three different countries, where I have also worked for more than 5 years as a Nurse Unit Manager in Intensive Care, where I have literally looked after thousands of critically ill Patients and their families and I have
and I am consulting dozens of families of critically ill Patients on Skype, via the phone or via email all the time and it’s clear that my strategies are
working!
Especially when it comes to “real” or “perceived” end of life situations, I have insights, I have developed tools and strategies that you can very quickly have PEACE OF MIND, control, power and influence!
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The fact of the matter is that if you think that the Intensive Care team has the ultimate power when it comes to stop treating your critically ill loved one in Intensive Care then they will!
If you don’t believe that the Intensive Care team has the ultimate power when it comes to stop treating your critically ill loved one in Intensive
Care and if you learn and discover what I teach, either in my Ebooks, Videos, Audio recordings or in my ONE ON ONE consulting sessions via Skype, over the phone or via email then you can have PEACE OF MIND, control, power and influence very quickly!
Your friend
Patrik Hutzel
Skype ID patrik.hutzel
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