5 step contrarian advice for Families of critically ill Patients in ICU that gives them control, power&influence
Published: Fri, 01/17/14
instantly improve the lives of Families of critically ill Patients
in Intensive Care, so that you can have real power, real control
and so that you can influence decision making, even if you're
not a doctor or a nurse in Intensive Care!
In last week's blog I've shown you "How to quickly
become resilient whilst your loved one is critically ill in
Intensive Care" You can read, watch or listen to last
week's update here. http://intensivecarehotline.com/?p=4682
In this week's blog I want to show you "The 5 step
contrarian advice for Families of critically ill Patients in
Intensive Care that gives you control, power and influence whilst
your loved one is critically ill in Intensive Care"
If your loved one has been admitted to Intensive Care for critical
illness, chances are that you feel out of your comfort zone.
Furthermore, you feel challenged, frustrated, stressed, vulnerable
and you feel like there is very little or no support for Families
of critically ill Patients in Intensive Care.
You most likely also feel like everything is in the hands of the
Intensive Care team and you may feel like the Intensive Care team
is not really telling you about what's been happening,
what's about to happen and where your critically ill loved one
is really up to. If the Intensive Care team is telling you and
giving you updates they do so in their medical jargon and in their
medical language that leaves you wondering of what they have really
said. Not a good position to be in.
You may have also wondered and worried how you, your Family and
your critically ill loved one are going to get through this
challenging and often "once in a lifetime" situation, as
there tends to be so little support, education and information for
Families of critically ill Patients available and if you are given
information, the Intensive Care team doesn't really speak your
language... and they tend to speak their own medical language and
jargon...
Now, if you are like most Families of critically ill Patients you
just leave it there and you suffer silently and you hope for the
best and you keep wondering...
Hope is NOT a strategy that works in the face of adversity
As hope generally is not a strategy that gets you results, you and
your Family are like the majority of Families of critically ill
Patients in Intensive Care and you continue to have no control, no
power and no influence during this time where your loved one is
critically ill in Intensive Care...
Meanwhile the Intensive Care team continues to run the show,
continues to use their medical jargon and they continue to keep you
"half informed" so to speak...
Again, not a good position to be in.
And if you are like 99% of Families of critically ill Patients in
Intensive Care you give in to the perceived power dynamics in
Intensive Care, where you perceive that the Intensive Care team
holds all the power, control and influence.
Unless you have started to think about getting informed and doing
your own research so to speak. That is a great starting point and
it puts your very close to those 1% of Families of critically ill
Patients in Intensive Care who have control, power and influence,
because those Families have realised that in order to get the best
possible result and best possible outcome for your critically ill
loved one you need to do something about it, get informed, do your
own research and also challenge the perceived dynamics in Intensive
Care, that the Intensive Care team has well scripted for you so
that you don't have any control, power and influence...
Taking a few counterintuitive steps might help...
More importantly, in order to be in that 1% bracket of Families of
critically ill Patients in Intensive Care who have control, power
and influence, you and your Family need to take a very
counterintuitive step and you need to look at what 99% of the
Families of critically ill Patients in Intensive Care do, which is
being passive, and you need to do the total opposite of what they
do. And the reality and the matter of the fact is that if you and
your Family do the total opposite of what 99% of Families of
critically ill Patients do, you will find yourself in a position
where you will have control, power and influence and you will be
getting results!
As I have said, you and your Family need to go against the grain
and therefore I give you "The 5 step contrarian advice for
Families of critically ill Patients in Intensive Care that gives
you control, power and influence whilst your loved one is
critically ill in Intensive Care"
1. Look at what other Families(in fact 99% of Families) in
Intensive Care are doing and do the complete opposite
Given that you have come to this website and that you have started
to look for information about critical illness and Intensive Care,
shows that you are taking the first steps to becoming informed and
you are probably fed up with the Intensive Care team not speaking
your language and that they only use their medical jargon that you
can't understand.
As I have mentioned before 99% of Families of critically ill
Patients in Intensive Care suffer silently and they don't
question the dynamics and the power games the Intensive Care team
plays and those Families of critically ill Patients in Intensive
Care continue to have no power, no control and no influence!
You are well on your way in turning the perceived power dynamics
around and you are well on your way to have control, power and
influence if you continue educating yourself here at
www.INTENSIVECAREHOTLINE.com and if you start challenging the
status quo.
2. Keep asking the right and sometimes difficult questions
Most Families of critically ill Patients in Intensive Care are so
overwhelmed, challenged, frustrated, vulnerable, powerless,
stressed and without real support that their emotions have taken
over and they can't think clearly. Those Families are therefore
not in a position to simply ask the right questions. The reality is
that if you simply ask the right questions you get the right
answers.
If you are like 99% of Families of critically ill Patients in
Intensive Care you are overwhelmed by the perceived power of the
Intensive Care team. If you however belong in that 1% bracket of
Families of critically ill Patients in Intensive Care who have
control, power and influence you will ask the right questions and
you are not afraid to ask difficult questions and some of those
questions are questions that will take the Intensive Care team off
balance so to speak. And so they should, because if you're not
asking the right and difficult questions you stand very little
chance in gaining any control, power or influence. But you can only
ask the right questions if you are taking a "crash
course" so to speak about Intensive Care and if you quickly
learn at www.INTENSIVECAREHOTLINE.comwhat's important and what
questions you need to ask.
3. Continue to be difficult and demanding
CONTINUE READING HERE http://intensivecarehotline.com/?p=4763 and
get the other 3 contrarian advice steps
Also, check out our weekly "YOUR QUESTIONS ANSWERED"
section and in this week we answer another one of our reader's
questions
"What are the options for my mother in Intensive Care if she
has been ventilated with Tracheostomy for about three weeks
now?" Check it out here http://intensivecarehotline.com/?p=4770
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