6 phrases you should never say when your loved one is critically ill in Intensive Care
Published: Tue, 10/22/13
instantly improve the lives of Families of critically ill Patients
in Intensive Care, so that you can have real power and real control
so that you can influence decision making, even if you're not a
doctor or a nurse in Intensive Care!
In last week's blog I was telling you about "what
questions you need to ask the most senior doctor in Intensive Care,
if your loved one is critically ill." You can read, watch or
listen to the blog if you click on this link here.
In this week's blog I want to show you " The 6 phrases you
should never say when your loved one is critically ill in Intensive
Care".
Your mindset is absolutely critical
Your mindset is absolutely critical when your loved one is
critically ill in Intensive Care and it's often the only thing
that you can directly control and it can make all the difference to
get you, your Family and your critically ill loved one through the
challenge of being critically ill in Intensive Care!
A negative mindset and negative thinking gets you away from what
you want and it also diminishes your level of power, control and
influence that you need whilst your loved one is critically ill in
Intensive Care!
Your positive mindset is crucial
On the other hand, a positive mindset is crucial for your level of
control, power and influence whilst your loved one is critically
ill in Intensive Care! Therefore, you need to know what to do in
order to stay not only positive
http://intensivecarehotline.com/stay-positive-loved-one-critically-ill-intensive-care/),
but you also need to know how to avoid negative thinking and
negative framing of the situation that you, your Family and your
critically ill loved one are in!
In more than 15 years Intensive Care nursing I have accompanied and
supported dozens Families of critically ill Patients in Intensive
Care and I have seen that negative thinking is often prevalent and
with that negative thinking there are often phrases or sayings that
Families use that directly impact on their level of power, control
and influence they have, while their loved one is critically ill in
Intensive Care!
So let's look at those phrases, why you shouldn't use them
and what you need to do instead!
1. I'm giving up hope
"I'm giving up" or "I'm giving up hope"
is one of the worst things that you can say or think! I know that
the situation of having a loved one critically ill in Intensive
Care is really devastating and frightening, but giving up is the
worst thing that you can do!
Winning against the odds often starts with your belief of beating
the odds and giving up or giving up hope is not part of beating the
odds! This is even more important if the Intensive Care team is
painting a negative and grim "doom and gloom" picture for
your critically ill loved one that you shouldn't buy into! You
should always question the Intensive Care team's motives for
their positioning of your loved one's prognosis and diagnosis.
The Intensive Care team may in fact give up or they may not have
the patience or they don't want to invest the resources and
they don't want to do "whatever it takes" in order to
get your critically ill loved one through this challenge!
2. I think we're not getting what we want
This is another big challenge and another phrase you must never
use, whilst your loved one is critically ill in Intensive Care!
One of the most important mindsets you need to adopt whilst your
loved one is critically ill in Intensive Care is your belief about
that you can get and will get what you want! As a rule of thumb,
you should always question the Intensive Care team's
positioning, their motives and the things they are saying and they
are not saying, whilst your loved one is critically ill in
Intensive Care!
Your belief that you can achieve what you want in this difficult
situation is making all the difference and it will challenge the
Intensive Care team if you exercise that belief! After all the
Intensive Care team has its own agenda and that agenda is often
dependent on the moving parts in the background of an Intensive
Care Unit and those moving parts are mainly the politics in
Intensive Care, the Financial budget and other admissions awaiting
an ICU bed
3. I think I/we can't control the situation
Again, one of the biggest challenges in Intensive Care is that
Families of critically ill Patients feel that they have no control,
no power and that they can't influence decision making! Nothing
could be further from the truth and you can and will have control,
power and influence if you
o Believe that you can
o Know what to do
o Know what questions to ask
o Know about the moving parts in Intensive Care
o Know that the Intensive Care team doesn't always act in the
best interest of your critically ill loved one
Armed with that knowledge you will be able to control your and your
loved one's destiny and you will have power and influence
continue reading by clicking on the link here
http://intensivecarehotline.com/6-phrases-never-say-loved-one-critically-ill-intensive-care/