How to quickly take control and have real power and influence if your loved one is critically ill in Intensive Care
Published: Tue, 07/30/13
weekly update!
In last week's blog I gave you "3 quick steps on how to position
and prepare yourself well mentally, whilst your loved one is
critically ill in Intensive Care". If you haven't read it, you can
read it here by clicking this link!
http://intensivecarehotline.com/?p=2605
In this week's update, I want to share the secret on how you can
quickly take control, have real power and influence if your loved
one is critically ill in Intensive Care!
The reality in Intensive Care is often that when "shit hits the
fan", meaning your loved one has just been admitted to Intensive
Care, you feel like you are losing control, you feel powerless,
stressed and vulnerable, least of all influential! Again, other
people are running the show and you might feel like you've just
been abandoned. Everybody in Intensive Care appears to be busy and
is attending to your loved one's needs...
After a few hours, one of the doctors or one of the nurses might
take the time to give you an update of what is exactly happening
with your critically ill loved one, why he or she needed to come to
Intensive Care and what the diagnosis and the prognosis is like.
Again, you feel like you're the fifth wheel on the wagon and you
have so many questions going through your head. "Did the doctor
really say that my dad had a heart attack?" "No, the nurse didn't
say that mum had 5 minutes without oxygen to her brain, did she?"
It's hard for you to comprehend all the things that have been said
by the Intensive Care team and it felt like a matter of fact
statement, rather than in a compassionate and empathetic way.
It almost felt like "this is what's happened and this is what we
are going to do about it and then we'll see... Do you have any
questions for us?"
You feel like you've been brushed off and you feel like even if you
had a question that they don't want to give you an answer anyway...
You feel helpless, stressed and vulnerable and you have no idea
what the doctors and the nurses are talking about and you feel like
they have all the power in their hands and you feel helpless and
upset. It would be great to talk to someone who would actually take
the time to really explain the things that are happening with your
mum or dad to you.
It doesn't have to be that way!
Look, I know how you feel and I know how devastating and
frightening the experience can be for you and for your Family after
your loved one has been admitted to Intensive Care!
The number one thing you need to know and more importantly, the
number one thing you need to do now, is not to be afraid of
anything that's coming your way, irrespective of what you've just
been told!
And what I mean as well is that you mustn't be intimidated by the
doctors and the nurses in Intensive Care! It's a massive mistake
and I see Families of critically ill people in Intensive Care
making it all the time. They are, more often than not, intimidated
by the people working in Intensive Care and they therefore "suck
up" to the doctors and the nurses and they put them on a pedestal.
This is such a big mistake and by doing that you are losing all
your power, influence and control. You are basically handing over
your power on a platter if you keep "sucking up" to the doctors and
nurses in Intensive Care!
Stop doing that and treat the doctors and the nurses as equals. The
minute you stop "sucking up" to them, you get your bargaining power
back and you have control, power and influence!
I do believe that you might be doing it unconsciously and you may
not necessarily do it on purpose, but people "suck up" to health
professionals all the time. Make a conscious choice and treat them
as equals now! Ask all the questions you want to know and never
take "no" for an answer! Also, don't let their apparent lack of
time be in your way! They can spend more time with you than they
would like to admit, if they really had to.
The minute you stop "sucking up" to the Doctors and the nurses in
Intensive Care and the minute you treat them as equals that's when
things change for you in an instant! That's when you gain back
control, power and influence, because the doctors and the nurses
generally are not used to people questioning them and their special
skills. But it doesn't mean that they are without fault!
Try it out! Make a conscious choice to stop "sucking up" to the
doctors and the nurses and treat them as equals! After you have
made that conscious choice, I bet your bargaining power, your level
of control and your level of influence will increase ten times,
just by you making a conscious choice and just by you acting and
behaving differently! It's a massive shift in mindset and it
actually gets you results! More importantly it gets you the results
that you want and it makes you feel in control, powerful and
influential! And that's an important feeling to have in such a
challenging situation!
http://intensivecarehotline.com/?p=2659
In order to learn more secrets about how you can be influential,
have real power and control, while your loved one is critically ill
in Intensive Care, sign up for your FREE membership now and get
your FREE "INSTANT IMPACT" Report where you'll discover how to take
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situation without being reliant on the doctors and the nurses.
You'll know exactly what questions to ask and you'll also discover
how you need to manage yourself and others so that you can have
real power and so that you can influence decision making!
With your FREE "INSTANT IMPACT" report you'll also get 4 other FREE
reports and the reports you will be receiving are
-The 6 questions you need to ask the most senior doctor in Intensive
Care
- 10 things you didn't know doctors and nurses are talking about
while you are not at the bedside with your loved one
- The 7 answers to the 7 most FAQ if your loved one is critically
ill in Intensive Care
- 9 myths of being a critically ill Patient in Intensive Care
Thank you for tuning into this week's blog and I'll see you again
in another update next week! Make sure you also check out our
"your questions answered" section at
http://intensivecarehotline.com/category/questions/
or send me an email to
support@intensivecarehotline.com
This is Patrik Hutzel from INTENSIVECAREHOTLINE.COM and I'll see
you again next week with another update!
Sincerely,
your Friend
Patrik Hutzel