3 quick steps on how to position and prepare yourself well mentally, whilst your loved one is critically ill in ICU
Published: Tue, 07/23/13
mentally, whilst your loved one is critically ill in Intensive Care
Hi, it's Patrik Hutzel from INTENSIVECAREHOTLINE.COM with another
weekly update!
Let's face it. 99% of Families who have a loved one that's
critically ill in Intensive Care are not well positioned and not
well prepared mentally. And why are they not well positioned and
well prepared mentally? Because Families who have a loved one
that's critically ill in Intensive Care tend to be overwhelmed,
stressed, completely thrown out of their comfort zone and they are
at the mercy of the Intensive Care team.
Worst of all, they believe they have no or little control over the
situation and that's exactly what puts them in a very bad mental
state. And being in a bad mental state is not helpful in your and
your critically ill loved one's situation!
So, how do you change this difficult situation, turn it all around
and get you and your Family in a strong and healthy mental state?
I put together 3 quick action steps that will help you to position
and prepare yourself well mentally so that you can deal with
whatever this difficult situation is throwing at you!
Are you ready?
1. Put yourself and your needs first!
Sounds counterintuitive doesn't it? It is counterintuitive, but
success in any endeavour in life often depends on counterintuitive
moves! I see too many Family members of critically ill Patients in
Intensive Care putting their needs last, only to find that they try
and spend day and night in Intensive Care to be with their
critically ill loved one!
If you find yourself doing this, you'll be running out of steam and
stamina quickly and you are not doing your critically ill loved one
a favour. Your critically ill loved one can feel your vibes and he
or she can feel, that if you feel well and you have been looking
after yourself, will make them feel good as well!
Your critically ill loved one can feel your positive vibes coming
from you and if you don't put yourself first, you can't give back
to other people!
2. Stop thinking that you are at the mercy of the Intensive Care
team
I see far too often that Family members of the critically ill take
everything they get told by the Intensive Care team for face value
and Families don't question and they don't question enough!
Intensive Care team members, whether doctors or nurses are highly
clinically skilled people, but that doesn't mean that they always
know what's best or that they are always doing the right things.
Also, keep in mind that any Intensive Care Unit and the hospital is
a highly political institution, where decisions are often made in
the light of politics!
A lot of Families also think that the Intensive Care team has a lot
of power and that therefore they can't question decisions. You need
to stop doing that and you need to start seeing yourself as equals
to the Intensive Care team! After all it's your loved one who's
critically ill and you need to have the mental positioning and
preparedness to help you through this situation!
3. Stay positive no matter what
Staying positive is critical for you, your Family and for your
critically ill loved one. The reality is that the Intensive Care
team is often taking a more negative outlook for the well being of
your critically ill loved one. The reason for that is that they
don't want you to get any false hope and they also want to protect
their professional reputation in case things don't turn out well.
You need to counteract their positioning, by defining your
positioning and your positioning can only be a positive
positioning!
Stay positive, don't give up and make up your own mind about
things! In this day and age, where information is easily accessible
you can get as much good information as you like and you can easily
counterbalance the Intensive Care teams positioning with your
positioning!
If you haven't subscribed to our FREE membership sign up now and
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You'll know exactly what questions to ask and you'll also discover how you need to manage yourself and others so that
you can have real power and so that you can influence decision
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while you are not at the bedside with your loved one
§ the 7 answers to the 7 most FAQ if your loved one is critically
ill in Intensive Care
§ 9 myths of being a critically ill Patient in Intensive Care
Thank you for tuning into this week's blog and I'll see you again
in another update next week! Make sure you also check out our "your
questions answered" section or send me an email to
support@intensivecarehotline.com
This is Patrik Hutzel from INTENSIVECAREHOTLINE.COM and I'll see
you again next week with another update!
Sincerely,
your Friend
Patrik Hutzel