How to always achieve your goals whilst your loved one is critically ill in Intensive Care!
Published: Tue, 08/06/13
weekly update.
Today I want to show you
"How to always achieve your goals whilst your loved one is
critically ill in Intensive Care"
This sounds challenging and daunting, I know, however there are
ways of how you can always achieve your and your critically ill
loved one's goals whilst your loved one is critically ill in
Intensive Care.
First of all, lets imagine a couple of the most common scenarios if
your loved one is critically ill in Intensive Care, where you think
that achieving what you want is far out of sight.
Generally speaking, the two most common scenarios are
a)Your loved one is so sick and unwell in Intensive Care that they
either face a long term stay in Intensive Care to get better and if
they do get better, they face major negative impacts on their
Quality of life in the future
b)Your loved one is so sick and unwell that he or she is so unwell
that they will most likely die in Intensive Care
Those two scenarios are relatively common situations in Intensive
Care, leaving Families of critically ill Patients distressed,
frustrated, vulnerable, overwhelmed and frightened and the last
thing on their mind is usually how they can turn the situation
around and feel like they can get what they want.
The frustrations, the stress, the overwhelm and the confrontation
of the situation, the lack of peace of mind and sometimes the
hopelessness are just massive and nobody usually gives you any
advice on how to
a)Cope with the situation and
b)Turn it all around and get what you want for your critically ill
loved one and for your Family
You see, one thing that I learned over the many years in Intensive
Care, when supporting Families of critically ill Patients in
Intensive Care through difficult and heartbreaking situations,
including challenging end of life situations is that the only thing
that stands between you and achieving what you want in your
difficult situation is your mindset. However, your mindset is
absolutely critical in your difficult situation and it's often the
only thing you can control.
The feeling of powerlessness and the feeling of having no control
in your situation is so overwhelming that you can't even
contemplate that there is a solution to the dilemma. The solution
to the dilemma is less obvious and counterintuitive and it's
nevertheless a solution that is powerful and it turns the situation
around.
It's very often frightening and confronting if you all of a sudden
start to see that there is a solution to your and your critically
ill loved one's dilemma and it all starts with you claiming your
power and your level of influence back!
The minute you've entered the doors to Intensive Care, you felt
like you've given your power, control and influence away and now is
the time to claim it back.
You claim it back, by being crystal clear of what you want for your
critically ill loved one. That could be as simple as making sure
that your critically ill loved one is comfortable and pain free.
It could be as simple as making sure that you and your Family make
the decision of what you know is in the best interest of your
critically ill loved one. After all, you know your loved one best
and you would have the best understanding what he or she would want
in the situation that he or she is in.
You would want to know that the treatment he or she is getting is
exactly the treatment that your loved one would choose to get if he
or she was in a position to make their own choices. Sometimes, the
Intensive Care team might suggest treatment that you may or may not
be comfortable with. Therefore, be crystal clear on what your loved
one would want if he or she can't make up their own mind.
Don't let the Intensive Care team push you in a direction that you
don't want to go and that you don't feel comfortable with.
Take your time to think things through.
The Intensive Care team often bases treatment decisions on latest
research, politics that are happening within the unit, the budget
available within the unit, the culture within a unit and also on
their individual values and all of those factors often don't align
with what you, your Family and your critically ill loved one want.
It is so important that you feel that you have power, control and
influence in your situation and you also need to know that you have
enough knowledge and power to make decisions in your situation. The
biggest mistake that you can make is to think that just because you
are not a doctor or a nurse in Intensive Care that you can't get
involved in the decision making process. That's what you often hear
from the team in Intensive Care. In fact, the best decisions are
usually made when the Family of a critically ill Patient in
Intensive Care gets actively involved in the decision making
process.Otherwise, decisions are far too often based on research,
politics, the budget and the culture within a unit, often leaving
Family and Patient values too far out of sight.
So what does it exactly look like to always get what you want in
Intensive Care?
It could be as simple as making sure that you and your Family have
peace of mind by having enough time to say good bye to your
critically ill loved one if he or she is dying. Often end of life
situations can be hastened and rushed and Families don't get enough
time to say good bye, leaving without that critical peace of mind.
This may sometimes happen because the Intensive Care Unit is in a
rush to make the bed available for the next admission already
awaiting ICU admission. After all, ICU beds are scarce.
Furthermore, it also could be that if your critically ill loved one
is expected to stay in Intensive Care for a long time that he or
she gets a quiet side room and also gets regular showers and/or
visits outside as soon as his or her condition allows. Again, a lot
more is possible if you simply ask for it!
Don't be afraid to ask and sometimes those little things can make a
big difference for your critically ill loved one and for you and
for your Family.
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In this free report you'll also discover
-how to ask the doctors and the nurses the right questions
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With your FREE "INSTANT IMPACT" report you'll also get 4 other FREE
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- The 6 questions you need to ask the most senior doctor in
Intensive Care
-10 things you didn't know doctors and nurses are talking about
while you are not at the bedside with your loved one
- The 7 answers to the 7 most FAQ if your loved one is critically
ill in Intensive Care
- 9 myths of being a critically ill Patient in Intensive Care
Thank you for tuning into this week's blog and I'll see you again
in another update next week! Make sure you also check out our "your
questions answered" section here
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This is Patrik Hutzel from INTENSIVECAREHOTLINE.COM and I'll see
you again next week with another update!
Sincerely, your Friend
Patrik Hutzel